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People who feel anxious often manifest several symptoms, such as headache, sleeping problems, concentration problems, and distress. Because of the fast rhythm of life in today’s world, which is full of challenges, problems, and stress, anxiety has started to be a common and widespread feeling, especially among the youth.

Actually, anxiety occurs as a result of social, academic, and life stresses. Some youth face social stress and anxiety because of issues like marriage. They feel they may not be able to find a suitable person to marry. Others get worried about whether they will be able to fulfill the financial responsibilities of marriage and other general duties. Even married couples might also face several obstacles in their life, which makes them feel anxious.

Another source of anxiety among the youth is the stress that often comes about because of the fear of failure in choosing the right career or because of high expectations and ambitions.

Even school and university students get anxious particularly during the period of exams. Submitting projects, research papers, and completed assignments and meeting deadlines are also sources of anxiety among students. In many cases, students fear to be blamed if they fail to meet the high expectations of their families.

Anxiety can be dangerous if it starts to be part of a person’s lifestyle. This can be the case if you are continually anxious — with or without reason — and if simple things arouse your anxiety. In order to overcome this problem, you first have to think of the negative physical, psychological, and social consequences that might happen as a result of your continual anxiety.

 What can you do? 

Although anxiety is a problem for many people, it can still be solved. Reciting the Qur’an is the best way to get rid of any feeling of anxiety. and from starting off this way, you continue by sharing your feeling with a friend or a member of your family to support you!

Anyone can experience these anxious feelings, but the important thing is to comprehend the reason behind the anxiety, which mainly arouses from a feeling of fear toward the future. Knowing the future is the choice of Almighty Allah for us, and we have to trust Allah’s choice. We have to be sure that Almighty Allah decides the livelihood and blessings for every one of us.

 Dependence on Almighty Allah

Our role is to exert our utmost effort in our studies, work, and issues at hand and to leave the future to Almighty Allah. Regularly praising and remembering Almighty Allah and reciting His Book are the main key to tranquility of the heart and confidence, which in turn treat any feeling of anxiety. It is not a matter of a specific medication; you are the one who can treat yourself through your sound faith and trust in the will and choice of Almighty Allah.

And always remember to do your best and Allah will do the rest.

Ikhlas

Malam itu pukul 23.00

saya mendapat kiriman email balasan dari seseorang.Sebuah email yang membuat saya tersenyum,bahagia lebih tepatnya.Bagaimana tidak,siapa yang tidak bahagia ketika lolos untuk ke tahap wawancara untuk program summer school business course di salah satu universitas di amrik? Yeah,and it will be at New York!

Rasanya seneng banget!Akhirnya saya meminta untuk wawancara by phone karena jarak yang tidak memungkinkan bertemu.Lama rasanya menunggu…

Lusanya, Detik demi detik ,Jam demi jam. Melihat jam tangan,melihat HP sambil sesekali mengerjakan thesis yang mulai tidak fokus.Rasanya saya menjadi bodoh kala itu.Saya berulang- ulang kali membuka paper yang sama gara2 tidak fokusnya. Lama menunggu,ada pesan masuk. Wawancara ditunda sampai besok,karena masih mewawancarai yang lain.

Besoknya,tibalah giliranku wawancara,just so so!then

Saya diterima!

Alhamdulillah.

New York.

Tapi sang pewawancara memberi tahu bahwa program yang saya ikuti hanya memberi beasiswa untuk  tuition fee saja.and this prob make me stop being happy person.

I missed read that it just tuition free!!!

OH My Allah!

Maju segan,mundurpun tak mau rasanya.Hanya ada waktu 2 bulan saja dari sekarang,karena mei harus berangkat.Waktu yang cukup singkat,tapi bisa dalam pikiranku. Ah bisa,aku bisa cari sponsor.

Tapi apakah bisa 2 bulan?

Lemme take calculation,Transport JKT-US + US-JKT + Living Cost at NY which extremelly so high! + VISA ++

My close friend told me story when he got sponsorship for their conference in aussie and he got it!I asked him,how long from got announcement and went to aussie?

Six Month!

Ah! how many times he send proposal?100 times and more..

Yeah, Crazy enough!

And I realize that it is possible to get money if I hardwork.but then,How stupid Iam to compare transport to aussie and NY?Living cost?And off course,he only apply for conference and it take several days?Me??????? approximately 2 month!

AH.then I call my parents and heard some wise advice.

My Father said bla bla bla

My Mother said bla bla

then my young brot said bla

and choice depends on Me.

I am mature enough,right?

Singkat kata,pewawancara ingin mendapatkan kepastian hari ini.kepastian.setidaknya mereka ingin kita tidak mundur setelah nama kita ditampilkan di muka umum.mereka ingin memastikan kita punya dana yang bisa cover di waktu sponsor tidak memadai.

Dan apa pilihanku hari ini?Saya memilih mundur.Terlihat klise dan mungkin bodoh. Mungkin jiwa kalian yang berapi-api bilang seperti itu.

Tapi percayalah,ketika kalian ada di posisi yang sama dan amanah yang sama mungkin akan berbuat hal yang sama.

Hari ini,berat rasanya untuk melepaskan sesuatu yang sudah saya perjuangkan.Orang bilang ini kesempatan yang mungkin datang sekali.Orang bilang nanti saya akan menyesal.

Iyakah seperti itu? Tidak.

Bukankah ikhlas itu melepas selepas-lepasnya?Dan percaya bahwa setiap keputusan yang sudah melibatkan Allah didalamnya akan lebih baik daripada dipaksakan.Bukanlah kesabaran jika masih mempunyai batas dan bukanlah keihlasan jika masih merasakan sakit.

“Bukankah Kami telah melapangkan untukmu dadamu? dan Kami telah menghilangkan daripadamu bebanmu yang memberatkan punggungmu? Dan Kami tinggikan bagimu sebutan (nama)mu. Kerana sesungguhnya sesudah kesulitan itu ada kemudahan. Sesungguhnya sesudah kesulitan itu ada kemudahan. Maka apabila kamu telah selesai (dari sesuatu urusan), kerjakanlah dengan sungguh-sungguh (urusan) yang lain dan hanya kepada Rabbmulah hendaknya kamu berharap” (QS.94:1-8)

“Boleh jadi kamu tidak menyenangi sesuatu padahal itu baik bagimu, dan boleh jadi kamu menyukai sesuatu padahal itu tidak baik bagimu. Allah mengetahui sedang kamu tidak. ( Al-Baqarah 216 )”

Ada suatu masa dimana mendapatkan lebih mudah daripada melepaskan.dan saya ada di masa itu.biarlah waktu yang mengantarkan saya pada pemahaman yang lebih baik lagi :’)

Ditulis dengan hati yang campur aduk.

Terima kasih keluarga,terima kasih teman terbaikkkkkk 🙂

M.Farid